By Lois Evans
A number of years ago I hit burnout. My work as the senior vice president at The Urban Alternative, having two teenage boys still at home, and trying to complete my undergraduate degree overwhelmed me. I told Tony one evening, “I need a break. I have to get away and get refreshed.” Soon after that conversation I boarded a plane to spend two weeks with my sister who lives in England.
I’ve talked to a lot of women in ministry over the years, and I know that I am not the only one who has struggled at times juggling work, being a wife, and raising children. However, what I have seen is that rarely will women feel confident enough to step forward and say, “Hey, I need a break.” Instead, they hope their spouse sees how exhausted they are and suggests that they take a breather, which just might not happen.
When Tony and I married over four decades ago, we agreed that we did not want to guess how each was feeling. If you are married, I want to encourage you to communicate with your husband about your needs, and take the time that is necessary to renew and refresh yourself. When you do, everyone around you will benefit from it as well.